I am playing around with a toy model of a transition metal complex where the HOMO are $d$-electron states of predominantly transition metal character. Let's say this is a $d^1$ (or $d^9$) system and the states are split in energy by ligand field effects. The relevant HOMO orbital is some linear combination of $d$-orbitals that correctly respects the symmetry of the transition metal complex.
I want to estimate the transition probability for a quadrupole $d$-to-$d$ transition from HOMO state. In other words, calculate $\langle f\vert r_i r_j \vert i \rangle$, where $\vert i \rangle$ and $\vert f \rangle$ are some $d$-orbitals I care about.
I can roughly estimate this transition amplitude by just using the Hydrogen $d$-orbital wavefunctions with an effective Bohr radius $a_{eff}$. My question is: what effective Bohr radius should I use?
For example, Copper is said to have a 3d-orbital radius of $\sim 0.6$ Angstrom (which is not the same as $a_{eff}$ I believe), but using the Slater estimate of the effective nuclear charge, I would guess $a_{eff} \approx a_0/Z_{eff} = a_0/13.2 \approx0.04$ Angstrom.
What effective Bohr radius should I actually use for very weakly hybridized transition metal orbitals?