According to my professor, magnesium and lithium form covalent bonds with carbon but calcium does not. He did not elaborate.
Why is this so? The electronegativities are:
Mg — 1.31
Li — 0.98
Ca — 1
C — 2.55
So a $\ce{C-Mg}$ bond would have an electronegativity difference of 1.24 and a $\ce{C-Li}$ bond would have an electronegativity difference of 1.57. Both are considered covalent. So how come a $\ce{C-Ca}$ bond wouldn't be covalent? There exists an electronegativity difference of 1.55 — comparable to the difference in the $\ce{C-Li}$ bond.
I know that Mg likes to be tetra-coordinated (Grignards) but I don't think this has much to do with this discussion. So, what makes Mg and Li special compared to Ca?
Summary of possible explanations others have come up with
- $\ce{Mg^2+}$ has an ionic radius 72 pm, $\ce{Ca^2+}$ has an ionic radius of 100 pm, and for $\ce{Li+}$, it's 76 pm. So perhaps the greater charge density of $\ce{Mg^2+}$ and $\ce{Li+}$ allow them to pull electrons toward themselves a bit more, thus making the bond more covalent in character? That being said, $\ce{Li+}$ has a single positive charge while $\ce{Ca^2+}$ has a double positive charge, and I haven't calculated the actual charge densities for any of these ions so I don't think we can come to a definitive conclusion here.