This is rather a question about finding the right literature, since the answer would probably exceed a typical forum post.
In organic reactions, mesomeric and inductive effects are of tremendous importance for the prediction of reactivity. I can work with Lewis structures and electronegativity, but I still wonder if there are more accurate descriptions arguing in terms of symmetries of the potential that is generated by the nuclei; how it allows for different coexisting standing waves; and that also consider 3D geometry dependences of the inductive effect.
Most texts argue in terms of atomic orbitals that are somehow bent and combined and hybridized, but electrons don't have a memory so they don't mourn after the times when they werebelonged to single atoms. Is there any readable description that looks at the whole molecule from the start, possibly written by physicists? Or is this just a thing for computers?
I searched the local university library and google scholar, to no avail. I have Clayden and Anslyn/Dougherty, but those don't really answer this question.