*I have a quantum exam on monday, and this one of the concepts being tested. This is an attempt to justify my procrastination, and an attempt at convincing myself that this counts as review. I am writing this to complement @Wildcat's already excellent answer.* The point that I am trying to prove here is that in general, for a given electron configuration a state in which the spins are unpaired has lower total energy than one in which the spins are paired. To make this point, I consider the case of an excited helium atom with the electron configuration $1\mathrm{s}^1 2\mathrm{s}^1$ The possible spin pairings: $$\begin{array}{cc} \hline 1\mathrm{s} & 2\mathrm{s} \\ \hline \uparrow & \uparrow\\ \uparrow & \downarrow \\ \downarrow & \uparrow \\ \downarrow & \downarrow\\ \hline \end{array}$$ This gives rise to $^1S$ and $^3S$ terms (ignoring spin-orbit interaction). For the singlet case and triple case (assuming the [orbital approximation][1], wherein the exact many electron wavefunction is approximated as a product of one electron wavefunctions. In that, sense $1s$ , $2s$ etc. given below are similar to hydrogenic atomic orbitals but aren't exactly the same. On second thought, I think the notation can be misleading.), $$\psi_{\text{singlet}} \approx \frac{1}{\sqrt2}[1s(1)2s(2) + 2s(1)1s(2)]\frac{1}{\sqrt2}[\alpha(1)\beta(2)-\beta(1)\alpha(1)]$$ $$\psi_{\text{triplet}} \approx \frac{1}{\sqrt2}[1s(1)2s(2)- 2s(1)1s(2)]\times \left\{ \begin{array}{ll} \alpha(1)\alpha(2) \text{or} \\ \beta{1}{2} \text{or} \\ \frac{1}{\sqrt2}[\alpha(1)\beta(2) + \beta(1)\alpha(2)] \\ \end{array} \right.$$ You can check that these wavefunctions have been construted to obey Pauli's Exclusion Principle. *Notation: $1s(.), 2s(.)$ etc. are the spatial orbitals and $\alpha(.), \beta(.)$ are the spin functions. The number in parantheses is a label for the electron. For example, $1s(1)$ means electron one is in the $1s$ orbital, and $\alpha(1)$ means electron one is spin up. Again, this is misleading you can't label electrons cause they are indisguishable, but this lets me keep track of my computations.* The Hamiltonian is $$ \hat{H} = \hat{H}_1+ \hat{H}_2 + \frac{e^2}{4 \pi \epsilon_0 r_{12}}$$ where, $\hat{H}_i$ is the hamiltonian for the single elctron $i$ neglection repulions. The third term accounts for inter electron repulsions in this 2 electron case. $$E = \langle \psi|\hat{H}|\psi \rangle $$ and using the approximate expressions we calculated above to find the energy for the singlet and triplet case. I have dropped the spin functions because the hamiltonian doesn't depend on spin here. $E_{\text{singlet}} = \frac{1}{2}\int \int ([1s(1)2s(2) + 2s(1)1s(2)])^* \left ( \hat{H}_1+ \hat{H}_2 + \frac{e^2}{4 \pi \epsilon_0 r_{12}} \right)([1s(1)2s(2) + 2s(1)1s(2)]) \mathrm{d} \tau_1 \mathrm{d} \tau_2$ $E_{\text{singlet}} = E_{1s} + E_{2s} + \frac{1}{2}\int \int \mathrm{d} \tau_1 \mathrm{d} \tau_2 ([1s(1)2s(2) + 2s(1)1s(2)])^* \left( (\frac{e^2}{4 \pi \epsilon_0 r_{12}}) \right )([1s(1)2s(2) + 2s(1)1s(2)]) $ $E_{is}$ is simply shorthand for $\langle \phi_{is}|\hat{H}_i|\phi_{is} \rangle$ Now, the last integral breaks up into two integrals $$J_{12} = \frac{e^2}{8 \pi \epsilon_0} \int \int \mathrm{d} \tau_1 \mathrm{d} \tau_2 [1s(1)]^2 \left(\frac{1}{r_{12}} [2s(2)]^2\right)$$ This is called the Coulomb integral. The second is called the exchange integral and is given below. $$K_{12} = \frac{e^2}{8 \pi \epsilon_0} \int \int \mathrm{d} \tau_1 \mathrm{d} \tau_2 [1s(1)2s(2)] \left(\frac{1}{r_{12}} [1s(2)2s(1)]\right)$$ Both these integrals are positive quantities. You can convince yourself of this fact if you examine the integrands closely. Based on this $$E_{\text{singlet}} = E_{1s} + E_{2s}+J_{12}+K_{12}$$ A similar calculation for the triplet state yields (I am omiting the tedious algebra), $$E_{\text{triplet}} = E_{1s} + E_{2s}+J_{12}-K_{12}$$ the $E_{is}$'s are negative terms (they are just orbital energies). The two positive terms $J$ and $K$ come from introducing coulombic interaction and Pauli's exclusion principle in our system. You can clearly see that the triplet state with has a lower energy. You can generalise this result to conclude that for a given configuration spins unpaired is always lower in energy than spins paired. The reason is something @Wildcat has already adresssed. Unpaired elctrons lead to poorer screening, and the increased electron-nucleus interaction is what leads to lowering of energy (despite an increased electron-electron repulsion in this case). [1]: http://chem.libretexts.org/Textbook_Maps/Physical_and_Theoretical_Chemistry_Textbook_Maps/Map%3A_Quantum_States_of_Atoms_and_Molecules_(Zielenksi_et_al.)/10%3A_Theories_of_Electronic_Molecular_Structure/10.02%3A_The_Orbital_Approximation_and_Orbital_Configurations