The most important thing to point out here is that your arrows are backwards. The diazonium is not the nucleophile. It is the electrophile. The diazonium ion has one lone pair. If it were a nucleophile, there's no way that you'd end up with the diazo compounds drawn, where each nitrogen has a lone pair.
This also means that drawing out all of your resonance structures doesn't mean anything because that is not the intermediate. The real question to ask here is which site on the naphthol ring is more nucleophilic.
Consider the naphthol as an enol for the purposes of the addition. Your two starting structures are exactly the right ones for focus one. The unsaturation in the enol in the top example is such that the nucleophilic site is benzylic while, in the other case, it is far from the ring.
The intermediates after attack by an electrophile are shown (technically, the carbonyls should be protonated still, but I'm too busy to fix that now). Only in the top case, where we substitute adjacent to the other ring, is aromaticity still preserved in the other ring. This is why the substitution is strongly preferred there as opposed to the other position, where we proceed via an intermediate that is not aromatic.