A bit of pedanticism first. Some of your terminology usage is inaccurate, I'd just like to take the opportunity to clear some of it up.
Nuclear spins do not "undergo a FID", they undergo free precession. The free induction decay (FID) is the signal that is measured when spins undergo free precession.
"Noise" in spectroscopy refers to unwanted, random signals arising from processes apart from the magnetisation of the spins. It's exactly analogous as the crackling noise you get if you try listening to a radio underground. The music you want to hear is the signal, but the crackling sound is the noise.
From what I understand, you are referring to a pulse that is unselective in terms of the frequencies it can excite. Such a pulse is generally called "strong" or "hard", because it obeys the condition $B_1 \gg \Delta B_0$ (the strength of the pulse is much larger than the reduced external magnetic field).
Many 2D experiments are designed to measure correlations between two nuclear spins, commonly denoted I and S. In the case of COSY both I and S are the same nucleus (typically $\ce{^1H}$, but there are versions with other nuclei). The correlation that is being detected is through-bond coupling.
The pulse sequence of COSY looks easy, but the maths is actually more complicated than it is for something like HSQC. So, if you don't want a mathematical answer, quite a bit of detail has to be omitted. The best non-mathematical way I can explain it is as follows:
- The first 90° pulse leads to excitation of spin I.
- During the $t_1$ period, spin I undergoes free precession. As $t_1$ is increased, spin I will precess through a larger and larger angle. The rate at which spin I precesses is related to its resonance frequency. So, since we repeat the experiment for many different values of $t_1$, information about the resonance frequency of spin I is encoded in the data set we obtain.
- Up till now, it is mostly the same as in a 1D experiment. The difference of course lies in the second 90° pulse. It turns out that the combined effect of the $t_1$ period, as well as the second 90° pulse, also leads to some transfer of the excitation from spin I to spin S. This transfer only occurs if spins I and S have a through-bond coupling.
- In the detection period, both spins I and S have been excited and will therefore precess at their respective resonance frequencies. Both can be detected simultaneously (since they are the same nucleus).
Overall, what information do we have? From the $t_1$ incrementation, we know about the resonance frequency of spin I. This means that, after Fourier transformation (which converts from a time domain $t_1$ to a frequency domain $\omega_1$), we will have a peak, centred at $\omega_I$ (where $\omega$ is the resonance frequency).
From the FID obtained in $t_2$, we know about the resonance frequencies of both spins I and S. So, in the $\omega_2$ dimension we will have two peaks, centred at $\omega_I$ and $\omega_S$.
In the 2D spectrum, then, we will see two peaks. One is centred at $(\omega_I, \omega_I)$, and is known as the diagonal peak. The other one is centred at $(\omega_I, \omega_S)$, and is known as the cross peak. Now, the cross peak only appears if there has been transfer of magnetisation from spin I to spin S, which in turn can only occur if spins I and S have a through-bond coupling.
"But wait! Aren't there peaks at $(\omega_S,\omega_I)$ and $(\omega_S,\omega_S)$?" Yes, absolutely. That's because the first 90° pulse also leads to excitation of spin S; after all, spins I and S are the same nucleus, and an unselective pulse necessarily excites both. In an exactly analogous manner to that described above, this gives rise to the other two peaks (you can just switch the labels I and S in my description to see how this happens).
Finally, to answer some of your questions directly:
in 2D COSY NMR, are both "pulses" the same?
Yes, they are exactly the same. (This depends on how advanced an answer you want, though. For the purposes of 2D data processing, e.g. the States method, the phases of the two pulses may be different - i.e. one may be aligned along the x-axis, and the other along the y-axis. But I suppose you can ignore this for now.)
in 2D COSY, during the delay time, the protons are undergoing FID the same as they do in 1D NMR, even if we are not measuring it at this time
As I mentioned above it is free precession and not FID, but yes, this is exactly correct!
How, then, does varying the delay time lead to the discovery of "correlation" between protons?
The thing about varying the delay time, is that we are trying to measure frequencies. These can be either resonance frequencies (i.e. chemical shift), or coupling frequencies (recall that coupling constants are expressed in Hz).
I offer you the analogy of a clock. Let's say you have a clock, and you want to measure the frequency at which the minute hand rotates. If you simply look at the clock for one instant and record the position of the minute hand, you can't tell how fast it is rotating - or whether it is even rotating at all! You need to look at it continuously over a period of time, or you need to look at it at constant intervals and jot down how its position changes with time.
Using only one value of $t_1$, then, is analogous to just looking at the "nuclear clocks" once. Only by using multiple values of $t_1$, can one figure out the frequencies at which the nuclear clocks operate (i.e. the coupling constant) - or whether they are even operating in the first place (i.e. whether they are coupled).
What is it about applying a second pulse to partially relaxed protons, and then measuring the FID, that leads us to discover how the protons are correlated, and to the presence or absence of cross-peaks in our 2D spectrum?
I hope the above discussion was sufficient. And if you want more detail I'm afraid that you need to go into the maths.