There is a bit of a philosophical debate as to whether orbitals exist only when they're populated, or if they're always there. In both oxygen and sulfur, there is no occupied $d$ orbital in the ground state (so both $3d$ orbitals are vacant), but in sulfur the promotion energy of an electron from a $3s$ or $3p$ orbital to a $3d$ orbital is much less than the promotion energy of an electron in the $2s$ or $2p$ orbitals in oxygen to a $3d$ orbital ($2d$ orbitals don't exist, of course). Arguably, this means that sulfur can access its $3d$ orbitals under the right conditions since the promotion energy required is relatively low and could be supplied in chemically relevant situations (so the sulfur $3d$ orbital is accessible).
It is not expected that an oxygen atom could ever populate its $3d$ orbital in a stable substance. It is possible to occupy an oxygen $3d$ orbital for a short while, however, by exciting the atom with a photon of the proper frequency.