While studying about Hückel theory, I got accustomed to the approximation of making the overlap matrix an identity matrix; that is making the off-diagonal elements zero as $S_{AB}= S_{BA}= 0\;;$ this implies the use of orthogonal base states of AOs. The off-diagonal elements of the Hamiltonian matrix are still taken as constants that may be non-zero: $H_{AB}= H_{BA}= \beta_{AB}$, where $\beta_{AB}$ is a negative quantity.
Then I wondered why it isn't the case that $H_{AB}= H_{BA}= 0$ strictly, as it represents the expectation value - the average energy contribution of the overlapping region of AOs $A$ and $B$. But, it would seem that overlapping is not actually possible, as is evident from the fact that $S_{AB}$ is zero.
In this question, when I asked about this, ifilot replied:
Indeed, this seems rather counterintuitive, but it is not. Another way of looking at $S_{ij}=δ_{ij}$ is saying that all atomic orbitals are orthonormal to each other. So if you would evaluate the overlap integral of two different orbitals, it would result in zero. This does not necessarily mean that evaluating the Hamiltonian integral $\langle ϕ_i|\hat H|ϕ_j\rangle$ results in zero, because first applying the Hamiltonian operator on the wave function and then integrating might result in a non-zero outcome.
I know he is right in this point; but I'm still having trouble seeing how this is possible.
As Peter Atkins in his book Elements of Physical Chemistry wrote:
[...] The integral $H_{AB}$ depends on both $\psi_A$ and $\psi_B$, and we can interpret it as the contribution to the energy due to the accumulation of electron density where the two atomic orbitals overlap, including, for instance, the Coulombic attraction between the extra accumulation of electron density and both nuclei.
Evidently, this phrase makes clear that $H_{AB}$ is non-zero iff there is overlap between the AOs.
So, how can $H_{AB}\ne 0$ and $S_{AB}= 0$ both be true at the same time? And, what are the physical implications? While the former means there is overlap, the latter means the opposite; it seems really contradictory.